In August 2022

theCareer girlVeterinary continuing education onlinenews, Ph.D.Justin lee,, DACVECC DABT talking about how she has it all.It isn't.

Author: Justine, Dr Lee DACVECC DABT
VETgirl medical director/chief executive

I have it all

In the past three months, I have multiple veterinary students, veterinary technicians, teammates and veterinarians to me fan girl (Thank you very much!Love you back!) and tell me how much they like I have all this and the fact that "representatives".Ok, let me tell you a little secret.

I don't.

Believe it or not, but my life is a shit.I don't have a "have it all".Don't get me wrong, I am very happy.I was lucky.I really hard to get there.But I don't have it all.I am very lucky to have a great husband, I know at the age of 38 and they got married at the age of 40.I was luckyContend with infertilityAnd the damage caused by a healthy child was born.I am slowly figuring out to become a living tipsEfficient, working parents, whether forA babyOr older children.I am very lucky to be in 2012 with DACVECC critics Garret Pachtinger Dr Together to start a small business called VETgirl.I am very lucky to be with Mars Veterinary Health cooperation, and joined a great VETgirl team.

But please don't think I have it all.

Although on the surface looks like, but I'm not "all".

Life difficult.I can never remember how our family under the pressure of COVID survived, because I think I already put it to erase from my mind.In 12 weeks before COVID, I think my husband and I are doomed to go to big "D" (divorce), because "work from home" with 3 years old children clearly push us to the edge.In addition, in 2020 to XNUMX XNUMX month (COVID) still cold Minnesota (and snow), we are trapped by cabin fever, cannot rest outside.

Then, I hired my husband (project manager) as the VETgirl do a part-time job.Even though my business partners issued a warning (for example, "are you sure you can be a direct reports to work with your spouse, because it's really hard to?").We know that my husband and I will probably start to work in the form of HR usually don't allow (also not in a sexy, good way).I mean, who will know that your spouse is "the office" partner, he threw all the garbage and dirty dishes on the everywhere (or, may be me!!!!!!!?).

Then...People from the surface of things.

People see me and think I am very healthy, the figure is very good, is a good runner, a mighty working parents, but in fact, I am not.To mental health, I must exercise 4-5 days a week to relieve stress.In order to maintain their weight, I must force myself to run (as a result, "www.choucroutage.com"), because once you have more than 40 or 45, or close to 50, your metabolism will slow down sharply.(in fact, I never started running until the age of 30, and cannot run more than 2 miles!)I am the slowest runner in the world (I satisfied with 10 minutes per mile!.I play hockey, but if you check my (or light touch me), I would fall down, because I am the weak point of our hand.I play ultimate frisbee, but about 25% of the frisbee throw me have dropped (some might say 30%).

As for my mental health?

Most people don't know I'm PennVet ECC resident who contend with suicidal thoughts during (this is a real linkOld vet team short articles about it).

Justine Lee damaged veterinary suicide of the articles

As for work/life balance?Most people do not realize, I spent more than 40 years to learn to say no to work/life balance.And most people don't know me to fight the main workaholic (hey, it is genetic, I received from my Chinese immigrants workaholic family!).(in fact, what I call "workafrolic".I very hard to do things I like, I love, give me joy).

Wanted to prove I have no evidence of "have it all"?People don't know my things, I'm sure my husband will be very happy to share, as I don't have all this evidence?

  • I the pressure, the greater the bedroom dresser clothes piled higher.I am a no sweeps the mess.
  • I can't cook.I good husband do 90% of the cooking.I can follow recipes, like a champion like baking, but daily cooking?Hello, instant noodles (for a toddler?Soy sauce noodles.This is ancient Chinese secret each working parents, the children like it.Cook noodles in Asia.Pour some soy sauce and sesame oil.Use the kitchen scissors noodles.Look.).
  • Since working from home, almost the same every time I wear comfortable long sleeve T-shirt and Figs frosted pants.Being single.Days.Because we have a child, we often wash the clothes, so I'm in the above alternating between clothes and my clothes.
  • I often to Zoom conference call immediately after the HIIT sports class, and cover with a piece of yourself in my dirty VETgirl jerseys to look decent.I even too lazy to shave, shower or brush my teeth, because who have time?
  • I am Zoom call the person who dislike, in front of the camera is still to eat and to drink, because who has the time!Thankfully, this is through the Zoom, because I am addicted to garlic all the bagels and vanilla cream cheese.
  • Due to work at home, either I brush my teeth at 7 o 'clock in the morning, or forget to 3 o 'clock in the afternoon, I was ready to go to the nursery to meet my children.
  • When parents pick me up in the nursery, I wearing the same long sleeve T-shirt and scrub pants.In the afternoon.
  • I love the earth is an environmental protection, crunchy, hippies.When I will be all right after the exhibition set beauty holds the mi/cardiopulmonary resuscitation (CPR) round plastic bag to take home with them out of the landfill, even VETgirl staff also laugh at me, because plastic bag looks like a jelly fish, so the tortoise accidentally swallowed them and received FBO!).It makes my husband crazy, because we have hundreds of plastic bags (shit bags, guys!), if I find them in the trash, I screamed at him.
  • In me a quick and efficient manner, I made a mistake, just like I talk to my dog baby talk to me, because I try to use fewer words and shorter "commands".Now, my five year old boy said: "come on.Take a seat.Paint with me, mom."Similarly, I also from his mouth to say "talk less, more color".Oh dear.
  • I frantically tried to work on my laptop, and after dinner in my children 1 (well, maybe is 1.5 hours) screen to finish the work in time.In fact, I just want to stay in his side, to stop work...
  • My husband and I quarrel.Care about their parents, he is a great dad).About my crazy schedule of travel.About who is walking the dog, why not let him walk.About children discipline.About family film.About life.But we are committed to make it work.
  • It took me half a day time to do administrative work...Such as book the flight and submit an expense account, submit your RACE, submit the payroll, edit syntax errors to mass speaker (why, why, oh, you can't pay on time the speaker form, ha?!Oh, that's me!!!!!!!).

Justin were

Why do I tell you this?

Because, I don't have it all.

My life is not "everything".I really didn't have "all together".On the basis of routine, it is not hot.But I'm just trying to survive, with the person I love the high quality of life, and strive to improve the quality of global veterinary, at the same time take care of my team and myself.

You all know this is important, so we bless each other.On the surface, some of us may seem to "have it all".But in fact, we are in survival mode.Let's support each other, support each other.Because we have this one, especially when we have each other's support.After all, # # # # vetmed life parenting veterinarylife need a village.

Bring you good atmosphere and love,

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Here, I found a useful video about "happiness myth" really helpful...

The myth of happiness

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