2 years on XNUMX 2016

No one told you to have children and put your veterinary profession, right?

After all, we should forge ahead, through the veterinary school, continue our internships and live, or the building up of itself in private clinics (or academia), right?We should buy the small businesses to help to repay the loan, balance work/life balance at the same time, although we are a workaholic, right?We should keep improving, make good, hard-working professional, balance it all at the same time, right?

Well, no one will tell you this, so VETgirl will tell you.

Stop what you are doing, now consider to have children.

What?!No one say it out loud.Ok, let me tell you as a woman of the trials and tribulations.Obviously, this is based on my own and infertility, stress, damage and rapid aging.

After graduating from veterinary school, I directly into the practiceingres. That was definitely one of the most difficult years of my life, because I work 100 hours a week (I do not recommend pregnancy during the internship!).After that, I made my emergency intensive care in hospital doctorThe university of Pennsylvania veterinary college.During this time, I was still very young, when I was 20.Then I joined the facultyThe university of MinnesotaIn the clinical teaching jobs.I like this job, because it let me have the opportunity to work with veterinary students, interns and residents, a professor, and work with the first-class veterinary experts.Before I realized my 30 s, living in a new south wales (Minnesota, I now call home).

Now, I should to say the least, I believe that life is time.When it comes there or situation, most things are not in our hands, right?Whatever you call it "fate", "the universe", "the will of god" and so on, we are not like a control freak veterinary himself wanted to plan our life.Of course, I should get married in their early 30 s and children at the time, but because of I am still single or dating (in a committed relationship but unmarried), it is difficult to plan family planning.Our workaholic personality thought, if we work harder, you can achieve, right?After all, we are scientists, later will only work plan of the family.

Ok, fertility is not the case...

A few years, quick into where I finally met the woman of my dreams.We got married at the age of 40 (wow!).Hey, I am a man who was a late bloomer, so every thing will let me make my life a little longer.But, we immediately began to try to have children.A few times after pregnancy and lose, we decided to try ivf.After all, we see all these mid 40 professional women with ivf children, right, so that not too hard - just expensive right?Wrong.As a scientist, I almost don't know, once you have reached the age of 0, IVF live birth statistics will quickly reduced to almost 2.5 42%.It isandTest-tube baby!How do these Numbers so low?!But the older women from ivf twins?Ok, don't want to tell you, but no one will tell you they are fromThe egg donor. That's right - other (young) women's eggs.This is great!Completely no problem, if you and your partner want to go that way.But we choose not to do so.So, after three years of efforts, we finally accepted peacefully we don't have the fate of the parents.

Our

Our "children" milo, the best dog ever...

Through this trip I learned?

First of all, the long-term effects of stress on the body is overwhelming.
When we tried to children, I want to do everything you can to reduce the pressure of my life.I try to meditate.I've tried yoga.I classify all the business travel.I implemented a good self-care skills (such as massage or facial care) a month.I keep a good shape and eat well (I even quit caffeine!).But it doesn't matter.Of course, in the three years of trying to, I suffered a lot of pressure...Personal and professional test are really challenged a man bear ability.It is overwhelming, I absolutely we struggle with infertility and loss for the pressure.Though try not to "stress", but it is difficult to explain long-term pressure on the body. 我们没有意识到压力是如何真正影响我们的身体的。

Second, I should be freezing my eggs.
Many years ago, when I was more than 30 years old, my cousin suggested I frozen eggs.That's crazy talk, I think.I,I plan to get married when I was in their 30 s and family planning(and so on, I'm still single.I am too cheap, to think of this option, because I basically had to go through all the expensive ivf hormones, drug therapy, the egg collection, calm, egg freezing storage costs, etc.Well, before you know it, time flies, ivf attempts to prove that my cousin is right.You are staggering number of eggsplungingIn your 30 s, almost is reduced when you reached 40.And than you thought it would be nearly 40.It is interesting to note that big companies like Facebook and Apple are actually pay for their employeesFreeze their eggsBecause they want the best, the workaholic you!Although I'm not sure if I agree, but women on the career path of power tend to give priority to she realized she grow old.

Third, stop, drop and roll.
We have studied this sentence in elementary school - $one thousand - a fire to do, right?Well, when you go too far in the veterinary career, I will promote it for you.Is never rest, stop the birth control, pregnancy and a good time to start a family, right?Although I do not advocate during your internship and hospital to do so, we all hate in our life the most difficult year intern pregnant, let's take her from her maternity leave all night), I want to promote you do early...In you have to experience infertility or loss of the battle of a devastating and painful experience before.Please remember, no matter the age size, every couple needs to 18 monthsbeforeThey are pregnant.So, my advice?At least 18 months in advance to stop the birth controlthinkTry on.

If you're still single, calm down.Well, a little.You must also stop, drop and roll.What I mean?Looking for a soul mate like applying to veterinary school...This is a job, manTake time to invest in this respect.I admit, I met myMatch.com, happy enough.But I had to write a great strategic and compact advertising, categorizing the losers, and people like the fbi questioning.But it is useful to me.

More important, and you want to live in peace.If you can accept no opportunity to have children, then please postpone planned parenthood.But if youtrueWant to have children, this is most important in your lifeIt's time to give priority to.

Life just happened
In the end, the life is just happened.After three years of efforts, we are unable to deal with emotional turmoil, stress, loss of money and stress.Without parents' life we finally subsided, and decide on more than 40 years old of time to enjoy our life together.

Then it happened...

We are very lucky.I will put it down to the timing of the crazy god, but after six months, after giving up, we in 43 years old pregnant.And this is stuck...

So we have Thanksgiving baby reminds us of gratitude in your life.Always be grateful.Feel happy and thankful.Welcome to the world, VETboy!

Veterinary boy

VETboy come!

I am honored to have local Minneapolis photographers I born gift,Meredith westin. She is beautiful and full of artistic breath eyes on such a professional, caring way captures our special day.(you can also find her worksFacebookandSets a).For your local Minneapolis - st.Paul is interested in your shooting people born, just mention the VETgirl blog, you can ping get 20% discount Meredith - she will contact you!You can see here:Birth story: Justin and Jason.

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See the baby while cesarean section

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The doctor put the baby to let me see him on transparent drape.

The most important thing is, if I have to again again, I will take the advice of the above.Now important dialogue with your partner, and find out what your priorities are.Because you know what?Veterinary community anyone - not your vet school professor, tutor, hospital partners, colleagues, academician, the boss and mentor, practice owner or industry will tell you to stop what you're doing, take the time to have a childnow. But when you close to 30 years old, you need to do so.

Because you know what?You can still be a good vet, continue to your career path, buy a veterinary clinic, to become an expert, and take over the world, a dog day at a time...At the same time become parents.

So, about how to balance work/life balance have any Suggestions?Become a veterinary clinic owner or a small business owner maternal?In the comments below!

Signature JLEE

PS another factors help us to be pregnant?After we decided to "give up" spent a lot of money.Dink, after all, we think we are!(double income, no kids).We bought a new house!A boat!I have implicit optimum beauty!We bought a first class ticket to Fiji.We spend all the, and then it happened...

  1. Michelle larson Said:

    Congratulations to Justin - he is very handsome!Hasn't turned up our little guy, but I hope that any day now.

    As survivors of infertility, I agree with you about the family priorities and discuss as soon as possible.

    I will come back to see parents and life balance advice!

    • Female vet Said:

      Hey, michelle!Very glad to receive your letter, I'm glad you also share in this journey, I'm glad you little guy coming soon!Said to epidural anesthesia "is", by the way.

  2. lisa Said:

    Follow the same even after they arrived, "children first" mentality.The industry's most people don't have also not to have children, also won't accept a sick leave, no day care, and can't shift or late.You need to immediately establish precedent, let your child ever existed in the first place, don't apologize.Some people will understand, some one who is, won't, but your child should always come first.When you know should not do this, you will make a final fight with their own power, naturally want to keep update or do more.

  3. Karen Miller (Karen Miller) Said:

    Bayleigh and Karen said: "find a cleaning lady, then sat down to enjoy your new arrival time...Of course we hope for an early get VETboy name: -)!!!!!!
    Congratulations to you and your husband and miro brothers.A pleasant story - thanks for sharing.

  4. Leslie Ann Jones Said:

    Write very good, say of very good!As the owner of a 45 years alone, very hope to have a family, I am also very real chance naturally conceived (though in a long-term relationship and my partner do want children).I hope I have a vision (and money) in 15 years ago my frozen eggs, but I didn't.I will therefore and feel my life is empty?Not at all.Said but I hope someone can stop and look around, and recognize that, as far as we know, in this case, the mother nature knows best.For my young colleagues, please think about it.We still need you, will still have a job, the clinics need to purchase, veterinary field, won't make you left behind!If you have a family or even on your radar remote, please consider start as early as possible.If not, it is also very good, so satisfied with the any way you choose. 恭喜你，VetGirl，你的新来！

  5. Robin (Mr Bolender) polo Said:

    Lorin maazel, Justin!I hope you will consider in June to attend our party 20 - we would like to see you.Take a 7 months old children travel is a piece of cake
    -- best wishes, health and happiness

    Robin -

  6. Kelsey Johnson (Kelsey Johnson) Said:

    Thank you very much for sharing this.I'm happy for you!
    Hear you, a great veterinarians and women, since I accept veterinary education early, I have always admired her, to hear you is really a great help encourage us to do so.This decision is also very difficult for me, I feel the next year or next year would be better.I really appreciate your post and guidance!If we had a baby, I will try to share with you some tips!

  7. Joanne potts Said:

    Thank you for you write a beautiful story.Congratulations to you both gave birth to a cute little baby boy.I hope we have time to meet on the road.

  9. Katie Said:

    Thank you for this article, and congratulations on your baby boy.I have recently realized that this is very important to my life.I hope I didn't realize this too late.

  10. li Said:

    Congratulations and thanks to you say these words.Work in this industry for 30 years, I have seen too many colleagues want children, but realized that their chance to have in the past when it was too late.The worst of it is in a very large institutions, all four of my colleagues in the same year with 40 years of age, and in single and/or childless met a personal crisis.Fifteen years later, they are still in the same situation.In my own personal life, I am married to a vet school classmate, we postponed the four years of time, we pursue residence and dream job at the same time.We narrowly avoided a bullet, but with a little help, finally gave birth to twins, in XNUMX years later she gave birth to two.As a veterinary middle-aged men, and the guidance of my vet conversation made me feel very uncomfortable.This is really important.Thank you for saying so.

  11. Kate Said:

    Thank you very much for writing and share this content.I'm 37 years old, in the entire process of reading, crying.So happy for your happy ending, it gives me more hope.Over the past year I have debated whether I should stop work all night, if you do too much damage to my body and require it to be pregnant...Maybe I should stop thinking and take action, earn less worry about later!Thanks again.

    • Andrea Said:

      Most of my friends and I almost (30 s) have kids, so it never be a problem...I think in veterinary school, I know I want to be a mother and a part-time job.As a student, I worked in many clinic/volunteer service, see the owners often tensions with their children, I know I never want to for the job.So for me, the second question deserves more attention.So I was lucky I can be a part-time job and raising my children.I will never deal with anyone I have.Thank you for talking about this problem...Family first!

  12. Ann Said:

    Absolutely!Remember, this is your life and career.Don't let anyone tell you what is your career should look like.I choose to work four days a week.I ask for leave on Friday to Sunday.My lunch break many days.When I was in there really hard.I became a vet, 3 years owes a huge debt.I'm 37 years old, my little boy 18 months old.I love my family and my career. 我不会变得富有，但我会过我想要的生活。

  13. Melissa C. Said:

    This is too important.My husband and I was lucky in my 30 s who have just graduated from veterinary school when pregnant.The scary at first, but it is so lucky, because it makes family is rolling in and otherwise we may be perfectly adapted to the above scenario - always talk about starting a family, but in fact did not promise.As another reviewer noted, daily challenge is to balance family life and working life.Every day I work hard to put the family in the first place, but not always successful.

    Congratulations to small one.I have two boys - they are riot.

  14. Jane Jones Said:

    A: congratulations!I'm happy for you!I'm in class at the university of Pennsylvania, 03, remember to work with you there.As a mother of four children (two biological and two adoptive), and not one but two clinic boss, I completely agree with your proposal.Never had a good time to do anything.You only need to do and let it play a role.I actually found ownership allows me to practice more flexible to arrange my schedule, according to the need to take children out to work, and bring them into the family business.Had four children at the foot of a clinic grew up, life can be very busy, but I like to share with them my career, and often with them.We have a playroom in two clinics, there are toys/games/and pets.It's not perfect, but nothing is perfect! 我不会用我精力充沛的育儿换取任何东西，但也发现我的事业非常有益，并从我的诊所和职业生活中获得满足感。 最好的祝愿！

  15. Irene Said:

    A: congratulations!I was actually in turn.I 3 s have 20 beautiful children, 32, started to read undergraduate course.I will graduate from veterinary school at the age of 40.I know when I die may not be able to pay off my school loans, but at least I can become a mother and veterinarians.Cherish the time, because they are too short.If a house is not very clean and it doesn't matter, because they always put it into this mess, but they don't always is very small.Often hug, laugh and love.

  16. Mary jersey Said:

    Congratulations to you!!!I'm happy for you!I want children.To become a vet is very demanding, the pressure is very big, I think people really need to know at the same time, children and career can be.And people don't tell you to stop doing it, you are right.You have to do it for you.A part of me feel guilty because I will give up my part of the dedication, just like my son was ill and I can't come in.
    I am 38 years old after my son, if I know how good is it, I will do early, maybe there is another.I also have different ways of looking at things, and very important thing to me before, really no longer.
    Thanks for sharing!!!!!!!!!!

  17. Marcy Said:

    Thank you for sharing this.Personally, I don't know that I belong to spectrum which part of the children, but I know many of my friends are suffering from the struggle, the more we talk about, the more we can eliminate stigma!A: congratulations!And another big thank you!

  18. Li bo Said:

    As a veterinary experts, because of the career development repeatedly delayed personal commitment and decision, this may be my story, only a few very small differences.The most important difference is that after nearly 2 years of ART, we are still waiting for the miracle.Congratulations on your baby boy - enjoy every moment of beauty.

  19. Rebecca's barak DVM Said:

    Thank you very much for sharing such intimate journey.After 40 years of efforts, 7 times in a test tube baby intermittent failure and a moderate ovarian hyperstimulation, my baby was born at the age of 2.My dear SIL (a PA) suggest that no successful couples are those who stop trying.You proved that she was wrong!!!!!However, I'm glad she gave us the courage to continue.My main regret not find my second ivf doctors soon.He will become aggressive early, I could for my girl have a sibling.
    I really quit his job to focus on treatment, and then in our efforts at the same time, according to my own rhythm began some relief work.It really helps my stress level, and may contribute to the success of our final.
    A: congratulations!Welcome, VetBoy!

  20. optimism Said:

    My understanding is that 15 years ago, egg freezing is unlikely to have made such great success.Embryo yes, eggs are not.Now, however, is not the case.If you are single or you and your partner is not ready to, which would make it very difficult.-!Financial: sadly
    However, because the student fees are so high, many young veterinarian may make a decision.I think it's important to talk about fertility, but that does not have any effect on me.I'm not ready to make these decisions at that time.I am Dr. Scholarship.

  21. Colleen, Mr Mulally Said:

    Justin, you make me cry...I have done practice, ECC resident (we know some of the same person!)A few years ago, I find my soul mate at the age of 36...Now is with you in the same battle.We are so hard to not pregnant for such a long time, because we don't want to be the intern or hospitalized partner more concerned about people, all of a sudden we seem to have more than 30 years old, everyone told us should try to 10 years ago.I'm happy for you, you to my home!Congratulations on your dog.

  22. Karen Negrin, PhD, DVM Said:

    Congratulations, the classmate.I know exactly what you said what do you mean because of career choices and have no children.I'm not sure if I want to have children.I chose my career first, mainly because I have many disease over the years.My child is my animals now.Who knows?Maybe in the future, if I find the right person, I will adopt, but now, I will take care of my fur kid.

  23. Melanie Said:

    About 13 years ago, I have a son, and quit my full-time vice veterinary position, in the first year to stay at home with him.In the field of veterinary most people think I'm crazy, but my family and church community support me.After I start my part-time job, this is the right balance to me.I congratulate you on your happiness now, it confirms the god for each of us has his own time!

  24. Linda b. Said:

    Congratulations!!!!!Thank you for sharing your story!!!!!When I was 40 years old before finally gave birth to my son, I have been to fight infertility and loss.I hope I didn't wait.

  25. Elizabeth hoping Said:

    Hi, Justin. I doubt you remember me, but I was a very similar internship with you, and then the ECC residency, and then directly into the clinical work.. It was not until I met my husband, only 37, I immediately start trying to conceive.As an ECC doctors work pressure and a long time, unable to normal diet and lack of sleep for a long time, had an impact on us.I made several rounds of ivf but failed, then when I am ready to give up the last round, I at the age of 40 with my miracle baby.However, my big decision is I stop the vet work.I work in the ER clinic for 13 years, I work very hard to get this child, I don't want to miss any of her life.As veterinary medicine is the most difficult decision I had ever done.We in the internship and live and work very hard through the board of directors, but not to do the work.I'm checking all has yet to pay off school loans.I can not hesitate or doubt, and my kids are the best decision I've done, I will never turn back.Congratulations, this also will be the best thing happened to you.

  26. Di palmer Said:

    It is a good suggestion, need to say it.Biology is nobody can negotiations, so we only need to deal with what we get.Great post!

  27. Fernando f Said:

    A: wow!A: congratulations!God is great, will never let you you can't experience.I believe he know your position in the field of veterinary medicine, your story can help so many people and give them inspiration.Thank you for your share!Me two piece of advice about work/life balance is that you need to have the same values and goals with you in a work of the hospital (or hire a concept of life bring out the best in each other's colleague) with you, and you must learn to give up certain things.It is hard not to feel is best in all aspects of the workplace.Family comes first, sometimes it means to make a phone call to want to come in at the last minute customer said no, or get your family need a part-time job, but maybe you want veterinary profession, because it may not allow you to progress a lot.I know from experience (two of the children's father, married a overnight emergency vet!)We always give first priority to our family unit.I left a very demanding leadership role position, it gives me all kinds of toys, drugs and resources that can be used in the hospital, in a much smaller clinics for PT post, put aside all the fancy, so I can have their own time to come back. 这是我们拥有的最有价值的东西，如果您错过了芭蕾舞表演、足球比赛、学校比赛等，您的孩子不会忘记，因为您被困在诊所为那些不在乎您需要离开的人工作当天下午 3:5，或者不在乎您的孩子发烧呕吐，需要从日托中心接走。 即使你拥有一个地方，总是因为你的家人而早早离开会造成冲突（无论你是否意识到），除非你的员工也相信家人。 非常感谢李医生！

  28. Michelle (Michelle Ross Rose) Said:

    Again, congratulations to you and Jason!I am very happy for you.I have read your story with tears.It's easy to be me...At the age of 37, I suffered from secondary infertility, almost no eggs.If I'm not pregnant at the age of 32 and 33, and wait for a few years later, this wouldn't happen to me.For your frank and I would like to talk about this problem and clap.As women, we always received conflicting information - kids don't define us, we don't need children to feel complete.We should focus on our profession and so on...But you write things need to say.You can go all out to be pregnant at the age of 40, and do everything well, but the fact is that no matter how much you want it, it is difficult to, is much more difficult. 这也需要考虑。

    A 36 years old friend of mine just frozen her eggs.She is single, still waiting for "Mr Right"., she asked her parents if she could use them to spend the money on the wedding on the economic help her complete the process - I think it's a wonderful idea!

    • Female vet Said:

      Thank you very much michelle, we have not been "teaching" to it's so crazy, I just want to share my journey, to help us in the field of those who did not even think of this...In retrospect, I would sooner frozen eggs, but I am going to put this crazy miracle thanks to god the crazy time!Feel good to be happy!

  29. Annie hall at Said:

    A: congratulations!Great post - and for your life as veterinarians and mother all the best wishes!
    You can do it
    (my husband and I combined the veterinary profession, practice owner and family.
    Down is not always easy - but we are proud of our achievements, and take pride in our own daughter, she is now a veterinarian

  30. Michelle (Michelle) Said:

    A: congratulations!He is very cute!

    I'm very grateful to my father's advice to: 'never have children have the right time.You always think you need to be ready to do it or do it before.If you want children, go for it.The rest will be in place.Of course, I have been married and have a degree and home!But my husband still working full-time at the same time returned to his master.Our first child was born, he has one year of studies.2 hour drive in that year, my mother came to help.A lot of!We both didn't sleep very long. 但他是对的。 我们想通了。

    So I totally agree with Justin writes very beautiful advice!And my dad!You have all the time in the world
    Build your career and buy your clinic, according to the way you want to build your house, and so on.You don't have time to get pregnant.If you want them to, don't postpone it.

  31. Jill Said:

    I got married in the middle of the veterinary school and a full-time job for 2 years before having children.I had a chance to changed the job when she was five months pregnant (who does?)And work for the most compassionate person, he is also a great veterinarians and practice owner!He asked me to set itself condition after maternity leave, I work 2-3 days a week, sometimes half a day.His first child was born three months later than me.I work in the early pregnancy include the shift time is long, no real flexibility.Good work and good boss is over there!Since my biggest child was born three years, I have been doing part-time and relief for veterinary.This let me have a chance to keep my skills to keep pace with The Times, and prove all these license fees and orthodontic cost is reasonable!... 在我休息的日子里，我在家上学我的 13 个孩子。 现在把他们送到托儿所/学校/任何地方，我都会感到难过——这一次过得真快！
    Congratulations, veterinary girl!

  32. Kelly cooper, DVM Said:

    Congratulations to Justin!I did in my 30 s just gave birth to my son, but fortunately, without the experience of what you are doing the test.When he was four years old I bought my personal practice, although I may actually work more time, but I found great flexibility.I can arrange major activities, such as in school so that I can go to.If he is sick or snow, he will be with me in the office.No long commutes and are of great help, I live in is only 4.5 miles) from the clinic.Now he is in grade 6, I'm looking forward to his more help in the office, and (hopefully) learn to develop good professional ethics.In the next few years one of the key tips - make sure you at least once a week for yourself and your husband to set aside a few minutes (whether walking long distances, or date night).It will help you become a better, more happy mother!I hope we can see you at the reunion next year baby!

  33. Jenny, Sally butterfield, Said:

    You're right, everything you say is the spot!!!!!!

    I graduated from veterinary school, almost 30 years old, I think I know what I want...Quick into a few years, I still have a debt (I think I'll go to pay), still do not know what I want to do in my career, and then when I decided to the child, it didn't happen.Two years of trying...Fertility experts, test, but no answer!Terrible!Someone told me that I should "start" early.

    We always think we have more time...We think we are invincible, but we are not.

    Fast forward a bit, I'm already pregnant 6 months now, this is a perfect opportunity to god arrangement (without medical intervention, only forever).I hope I'm not, and so on.

  34. Carri Chang, DVM Said:

    Thank you for your write down your experience!I see how we can take these expectations and goals into our career, for some reason, to have children very normal life experience has become so difficult, or even considering this means that we have some sort of weakness or what.Did I do with you * should * instead of things...I from practice interval for 7 years, in order to pregnancy and child rearing.I want to say I am brave and plan to do this, but the feeling is right, like the feeling when I go back to work for.I share this is to say, I admire my colleagues, they so persistent for career, but don't worry...Work will always be there.

  35. Sharon Said:

    Thank you very much for your report on the content of the post!I it is hard to explain to my colleague why my partner and I decided to now when I was still in school to start our family.After three years of trial and many failures, I in the first annual under my son.People looked at me and think I now have children, it's so crazy, but they didn't see is our living son of heartbreaking journey.I drop out of school for a year, because I have to repay student loans and unable to work due to complications, it is very difficult.I don't regret it, not in the ability to deal with hormones to promote the strong smell of anatomy laboratory, nor because my son caught a cold and had to be absent from class as the day of the second grade students.Hear a respected professionals express my inner feelings, now consider the child is not a bad thing, this is going to be great.(well, if you can help, maybe not at school, but when you are young when dealing with infertility, some of us don't have much choice).

  36. Fabio da silva, ferris - ashby Said:

    Warm congratulations on the birth of VetBoy!Add a lovely a part for your family, what a wonderful surprise!
    I am waiting for it is too late and is experiencing "idiopathic infertility" group.We (I) sigh not try early, but now have mastered.We decided not to test-tube baby, because I think if you don't succeed, I can't afford the loss of emotional.My husband and I decided to expand our family through adoption, we actually completed in June to our son's adoption.He is 2 years old this year, it's perfect!I know, all parents say so, but I thank my lucky stars for him every day!!
    I have found that in terms of the balance of family and work, is useful to me as an assistant in practice work schedule "part-time job" (three times a week).My boss is a mother, they learn in practice and the significance of the breadwinner, and very good at adapt my schedule.

  37. soil Said:

    This is terrific, must share!Congratulations to you and your husband!Although I'm not a vet (but) in the veterinary profession I can with the most relevant content.Life is too short, the family is the true meaning.Thank you so frank, and share such wise words to need to listen to women.Congratulations once again!

  38. Catherine heaney, DVM Said:

    Thank Justin so generously tells the story of a story so close but very important.
    Congratulations on the new baby!MAH everyone excited for you.

  40. Kerry kramer Said:

    Thank you, Justin, you wonderful, thoughtful essay (this let me in tears).I on many levels are associated with it, can't agree more.You need to say good write bravely.I 39 years old daughter.I work in a big city of a high-end clinic for 10 years.In my relationship in and out, I can't put in enough time.And, yes, I have made at Match.com.Dating is a job.I seriously.In I am 38 years old birthday that day, however, I found myself single and have no children.Me and my at an OBGYN office mutual affinity, he suggested that I consider ivf. 所以很自然地，在我做出这个决定并放弃约会之后，我几乎立刻就遇到了我的伴侣。 六个月后（惊喜！）我们有了一个孩子。 （所以比计划的要早一点，但一切都很棒。）长话短说，我现在从事兼职工作，住在郊区，抚养我的好女儿，并获得教授瑜伽的认证。有一个孩子改变了我的生活变得更好，让我专注于幸福。 我为你感到非常高兴。 我想你会在抚养儿子的过程中找到很多快乐。 在我有了女儿并离开我的 FT 工作之后，我的一位优秀客户不断告诉我“这是你做过的最重要的事情”。 五年后，她的话在我的脑海中仍然记忆犹新——她是对的。 恭喜你

  41. Mary's Said:

    Congratulations!!!!!!Enjoy this time with son.In a few days my daughter is 7 months old, I am grateful for every moment, even though this is the most difficult thing I ever did.It's hard not to think she in the work, it's hard not to want to work at home in the evenings.It is very difficult for employees to work again, because now I focus on my daughter and not work, I don't want to give up my personal time.This is much better for me and my family.Thank you my husband, I to give to our lives.I hope you can figure out how to become a vet, mother and wife.Once you are there, please release the proposal.

    • Female vet Said:

      Thank you maria!I'm not sure if I will have a good suggestion, but I'll see what I learned from the crazy life lessons, and share as much as possible!

  42. Liz F. Said:

    Thank you very much for writing this article.When I began my veterinary school, I'm 28 years old, and have been married for several years.I was diagnosed with polycystic ovary, and was told that I may need to accept fertility treatment to bear children.Fast forward a few months, relieve stress and reduce weight, I'm pregnant with my daughter (in the anatomy of the laboratory is very interesting), and then my husband and I try again, when she was 18 months old, six months ago with our son.My project and 6 months, but I never regretted my decision to have children in veterinary school.I know that some in the industry we really hard to understand, I have some veterinary school's mother told me that they have veterinarians told them that if they don't completely absorbed in his career, you should not become a vet!As recently we are professional in all the discussion about mental health consciousness, I think we need to realize is that in order to do our best for our patients, we need to do the best for yourself.This includes work/life balance.Though not for everyone, but the children is the best place to escape the daily test -- not to mention we are developing a new generation of animal lovers!

    Good luck to you baby!

  43. Dennis walker, DVM Said:

    I got married in 2012, 37, 38 born in my 6 years old birthday of my daughter!Now she is 3 years old, and I'm 41 years old, it's a journey!And when the vet, as good job as a mother is the best ever.

    Congratulations and best wishes!

    My friends,
    Tanis!

  44. Jennifer Padilla (Jennifer Padilla) Said:

    I totally agree with you, Justin.If you really want to have children, no matter what has happened to your life, it must be a priority!I married at the age of 31, 34 years old gave birth to her first child -- when my husband decided to return to school study for a medical doctor.We have 1 years of income.I now pregnant with baby, 6 is full 3 years old next year.Through 40 miscarriages and 2 times pregnancy, when he was in medical school, I continue to work full-time.He began to live next year.People always ask me "how do you do that," I just said, "well, I think I have no choice!"A lot of pressure, in retrospect, we should start after marriage.But, I'm very happy that we insist on down, did not wait until my husband finish school!Congratulations on your little:) remember: "life is what happened when you were in other plans!"

    Love,
    jue

  45. Kerry fox Said:

    Congratulations!!!!!I am very focused on work and purchasing practice, I succeeded in this respect.I got married more than 30 years old, still completely absorbed in work, 9-11 occurred at that time.Makes me want to know what I'm waiting for, if everything can be taken away in a day.I (intervention) within three years had four children, at the same time to buy the clinic, buildings, and built a new hospital.Have pressure?B: yes.The children make me more rounded;I can't see the full date, for many years.Oh - work/life balance? 它更像是 90-10、10-90。 有时家庭优先，有时工作，但对我来说它是平衡的。 它不是（对我来说）一直是 50-50。 享受那个宝贝！！！！

  46. Mary Said:

    I was definitely on positive career path, hope to achieve some milestones before you make time for the family, but a little exhausted.Somehow it into decision now or forever is not suitable for children.Twice after pregnancy and two boys, I actually ownership career dream closer to me, and more in work and family happiness!
    Like this blog, congratulations!

  47. Chelsea Said:

    Thanks for provide this good article!I agree with your information, I just want to add that you should not let others think for them to become a mother and vet decided to you as a mother and veterinarians.I also contend with loss and infertility.I was lucky in veterinary school before they found my future husband, although we until veterinary schools only get married in the summer between the first and second years.We decided to try our first child in late in the fourth time, so I can leave between the school and the first job.Well, it as good as expected.In the end of the year, I have no children, but I have to suffer losses, and during one of my senior clinical rotation, I will accept an ectopic pregnancy emergency surgery.A few months later, we found that we are looking forward to once again go through the agony of stillbirth daughter at 21 weeks.This is my first job after graduation from veterinary school in the first year.I don't know how we are survived all this, I do not know why we keep trying, really not we deeply desire to become parents and stubborn. 在又一次失利之后，我们终于幸运地怀孕了，一直到足月。 虽然现在很健康，但我们的第二个女儿早了 2 周，但体重只有 3 磅，我不得不接受先兆子痫的治疗。 她在新生儿重症监护室呆了将近两周。 当我们真正成为父母时，我只想尽可能多地和她在一起。 我有幸为当时支持我和我的决定的一些出色的同事工作，最终我在产后请了 2 个月的假。 我仍然发现我的优先事项已转移到将时间与家人和孩子放在首位。 我受到了一些同事的反对，不得不听取其他人的意见，即我不能既是一名优秀的兽医，又不能有时间陪我的孩子，但我也得到了支持，我没有动摇关于我的信念和优先事项，总体而言，我对自己的职业和作为父母的位置感到非常满意。 虽然我喜欢成为一名兽医，但在生命的尽头，我宁愿我对与亲人共度时光的遗憾少一点，而不是每天每时每刻都督促自己成为一个无论如何都不现实的理想兽医。

  48. Christine dominguez Said:

    First of all, congratulations and wish everything goes well with you and your beautiful family!Thank you for your blog.I'm new in Vetgirl, this is the first blog that I have ever read.It touched me.I was in a similar situation, 37, is trying to have a second child, multiple miscarriages, removal of the cervical cancer, and must have a child as soon as possible, because I need for a hysterectomy.I hope other women to accept your advice - family first!Thank you again!

  49. Elizabeth lee Said:

    I'm glad you advise everyone to freeze their eggs.I choose before I met my husband frozen I, because of that decision, I have a great 2 years old children.This is not a guarantee, but when it works are worth the investment.I told everyone, if they haven't met someone before the age of 35, and you have some
    Money - about frozen your eggs.The best decision I ever did!!!!!I'm glad it is useful to you.Little bear

  50. Kim Said:

    A: congratulations!I also want to say, you don't need relationship children afterlife.I pursue sperm donors, because I am single and don't want to get married, but want to have a child.I have a beautiful daughter, as a single mother I very happy!

  51. Leeds Said:

    Thank youI'm thirty years old.We (my fiance and I just moved to a new town.I am going to get married and start a new job.I am pregnant will have any effect on the relationship with the new employer felt very nervous.But I don't want to delay a family.I'm struggling, because my family what is delayed I work in the new ideas and feel guilty.

  52. Kim Said:

    Great read.No one is ready to make time for you and your family.I bought a hospital, I found I am pregnant for six weeks.Nobody's journey is not easy or complicated.But this is an exciting journey.4.5 years, and my four-year-old boy that's great, so
    Is my thing.If I have to again again, I'm not sure that I will choose this road, but that's life!Enjoy the drive!!!!!

  53. Li Yong Said:

    Hi, Justin, just found out that your blog and it damn good!!I fully agree with everything you mentioned in this article.Work in small/wildlife practice for nearly 10 years later, I got married at the age of 32.I didn't waste any time, eight months later we pregnant..Plan is always return to work after 6 months, but the universe has other ideas!Three boys and four years later, I finally managed to return to a part-time job (nervously) - this is my second week!This is a very long time to rest, but totally worth it, I would recommend it to anyone who asked.I like when the mummy, the boys think I'm in the work to take care of the animals is too great, I'm glad that we are the center of a part of the double income family!!
    Find your blogs and websites are very suitable for me to return to work in a busy practice, hurried to spend time with the children together, and try to modify.
    Thank you very much!

    Ps - all the best w vetboy!I have 3 wild Scottish musketeers, boys are great!XXX

  54. Ariane Anderson Said:

    Thank you for your share!I am glad to see that famous vet to talk about this problem.I am very glad to hear your little miracle, after all you have done is to bless us with a wonderful CE!

    I really want to ask, my understanding is frozen eggs as reliable frozen fertilized egg or sperm.Technology has changed, or is still so, apparently single women only egg to choose from?

  55. tammy Said:

    A: congratulations!Thank you for sharing this beautiful story, share, and we don't often hear point of view.I like your advice about dating, when I was the only single exercise, I often have to those who had to leave early pick up the kids and other colleagues to fill the gap.Like this in the past a few years later, I have to remind yourself, even if I have no child, I also need to make time for outside of work activities, such as dating and social life, so one day I can meet a person, have their own family.Again, it's very good advice - thank you for your article!

  56. Sue Said:

    Justin, the work is absolutely inspiring, and timely, because although I graduate student and want to continue to live in the future, but I still find the beginning of my family encouragement!

  57. marg Said:

    Wow, I can't agree more!Our professional and social tell women to have it all, and move on.When I finally think I will have children (because it's easy to), I'm 35 years old, "women".After 2 years of fertility treatment, I'm pregnant, fortunately, two years later she gave birth to a magical surprise son - the best gift from the universe!Now my children, ages 5 and 7 years old, I just sold a variety of practices, I have 2 days a week, before I miss all focus on become a mother.Since I can remember, I have no greater joy than this.Try to do it don't work - whether at home or at work, you will fail every day, this is a very stressful burden.I am 43 years old this year, the work is always there, but not my sons grow more slowly.Who have said they want their work before dying more??

  58. Melissa larkins Said:

    You know, just a few years ago, I thought I have enough time to create your own family and lovely children.Until that moment I really hard!But I fell in love with my life.But one day, everything changed.I met my future husband.After getting married, I just found out that I was 45 years old and have no child!I was scared!Many doctors say: you are late!Your body is too old, or something similar.That's too hurt...但我丈夫有不同的看法。 他给了我一份很棒的礼物——一种环游欧洲的假期。 我们的最后一个目的地是乌克兰基辅。 我认为这是一次非常令人兴奋的冒险——对我们来说是一个全新的县。 但只有在基辅，我才知道这次旅行的主要思想是人类繁殖的中心。 我丈夫读到它是东欧最好的之一，那里的价格相当实惠。 例如，如果我没记错的话，我们的计划只花了我们 30 万欧元！ 两年后，我可以说这次旅行对我们来说非常特别和成功。 我想补充一点，如果您有机会早点生孩子，您绝对应该尝试这样做。

  59. ALS Said:

    Hello, I know this is an older article, but just want to comment.I live in the UK, hope this year began on September veterinary school!This all sounds great, but nearly thirty years old when I graduate.I'm just worried that it might be a little too old for that now, I won't let you have too much time with your partner (single) settle down, buy a house and children.On the other hand, if I choose not to go to veterinary school, I can reach 30 and still find themselves still single, no child!I also have other people told me, it is unwise to leave shortly after graduation, because I will miss the first graduate with important clinical skills/knowledge.Guess what I just looking for some comfort to congratulate you on your the little boy

  60. Dr Rifaat Salem Said:

    Congratulations to Justin!Thanks for sharing such a wonderful story.I pray to god for you and your angel makes your life full of happiness.

  61. Stella letty Said:

    I just read this, now I want to say thank you for this topic so open and frank!After I complete the degree, I directly into the private clinics, with her husband, and "plan" when I was 2 s gave birth to two children.After 30 months of failure and 18 times after miscarriage (at this point I have nearly 1 year old), I sat on my family doctor's office, he told me I eggs reserve is too low, I basically have a 32 women's ovaries. Unless we use the egg donor, otherwise I don't have a real chance with my husband gave birth to her own baby.Fml x 50.I even don't want to be a candidate for test-tube baby, because I reserve is so low.But we decided to try IUI (don't know what can we do?In the economic/emotional, egg donors is not an option).
    About four months later, my son was pregnant.He now 4 years old, is a healthy, loving ass pain (in the words of love).About four years later, our daughter conception in the clear blue sky...Or an alien...I don't know.When I am monitoring ultrasound shows * not *, I returned to the office, in my second round of IUI.$2 / drug injection in the 2 days didn't have a damn follicles.So I cancelled the cycle.After a few weeks (without forthcoming month classics and convinced that I am finally in more than 3 years of age after menopause) I received a call from the clinic, said I'm pregnant.Wow.My daughter has just turned 14 years old, told me yesterday that dinosaurs and birds have their nests.Smart boy.
    I never thought I would under the influence of infertility.But I am.It is very bad, very difficult.Mother nature doesn't care * * you are more outstanding, more intelligent, more talented, more diligent, motivated, or more successful.Therefore, please spend some time with you and your partner (if applicable).

    Congratulations to you and your husband Justin!I hope all of you health and happiness, as well as the kind of crazy children bring you life.And please continue to write and tell the truth!!!!!!:)

  62. danielle Said:

    I first read this blog today.I like it.I now have a 1.5 year old child.I'm trying to figure out how to be a vet, and for my family, and take care of yourself.We need more successful women tell their stories.Thank you for your sharing.

  63. sawyer Said:

    It makes me very happy.When I a year off to come from veterinary school children, I felt very nervous, and a little are judged.I found my husband eggs reserve is very low, the doctor said now or never.This article makes me think of my selection is effective, and I'm not a vet, dedication is not have children in school.

  64. allison Said:

    Thanks for sharing, Justin.You are always an inspiration, I'm happy for you!
    I am one of those a non-traditional elderly veterinary students take turns to practice (39)
    Now is my life in the emergency room in the second year, I like it, but will not relieve me of the overall pressure.
    I five years young and I had just veterinary school boyfriend, he finally revealed that he is not
    On the whole marriage and children, I found myself (woo hoo) and 41 years old and date
    Try to accept such a fact that the child may not in the CARDS.It is very difficult.Is the time where did you go???
    But you gave me hope!If that means...

    So happy for you, hope you will let the community know your SIMS ❤ ️

  65. Career girl Said:

    Oh, Alison, I'm sorry to hear that.If I were you, I will consider to egg freezing as soon as possible.Consultation appointments, discussion about it and see whether this is a choice.The first date, won't make you do anything, right?Think good thoughts for you, and let me release!

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